If you haven’t noticed lately, I haven’t been checking in on my little piece of the internet very much, other than to update my instagram. I have to admit, I miss you guys and I miss blogging, but here’s the deal. Depression has been kicking my butt lately, with excessive body ache, misplacing things and just a constant lack of concentration and motivation. Mental health is a constant, daily, even hourly battle if you know someone suffering please be there for them, listen and don’t say any of the 7 things below!:
1. Don’t be silly
There is NOTHING silly about depression and anxiety it is vile and not a choice. People do not choose to feel like this, their emotions and fears are very real to them and regardless of how it feels to you, to them it is a BIG thing.
2. You have nothing to feel sad/cry about
The thing is, there doesn’t have to be something to be upset about they just are upset, feeling weak/worthless and/or overwhelmed, although you think this may be helping it doesn’t, it just makes them feel that you don’t understand and it will probably be harder for them to talk to you about it next time.
3. You weren’t always like this
No shit sherlock! Do you not think they know this, and it is likely they would much prefer to be the old, not stricken with fear, fun loving them again too.
4. There are people so much worse than you, you have nothing to feel sad about
I read a fantastic quote that explains this, saying someone can’t be sad because someone else has it worse is like saying someone can’t be happy because someone else has it better. As I said this illness is selfish, a daily personal mind attack.
5. You don’t need to take medication, it is all psychological
Anxiety/Depression is an illness, would you tell someone with a ‘non mental illness’ that you could actually see not to take their medication? Highly unlikely. This illness consumes you, a dark overwhelming and suffocating shadow aching your whole body, and medication if helpful that eases those feelings in any way is welcome in my eyes.
6. You never bother with us any more
Depression is selfish, it haunts you and makes you feel weak and hollow, from personal experience when my depression hits I hide away from conversation and social occasions for fear of upsetting, hurting and infecting others with how I feel, that and the fact that I completely hate myself at that time and can’t understand why anyone would want to talk to me anyway. If you know someone that is being like this, please keep even just dropping them a text to tell them you are there or inviting them for a brew, it will mean more than you know.
7. You just need to sleep it off
When my depression hits, I sleep so much more than I should during the day, not by choice, but by my body being so exhausted that I just fall asleep. At night when I should be sleeping however, trying to get to sleep is so so hard, taunted by thoughts and a body that won’t relax is upsetting enough, without someone thinking your mental illness can just be slept off.